Top 10 Ways to Get Rid of House Guests who Overstay the Invite
We all go through the trauma of indecent relatives, friends and well wishers who push their stay too far to turn them into those guests who come with our invitation but do not go against the same. When the time limit crosses our patience limit that’s when the hospitality begins to die down and the stay becomes a threat to our personal space, peace and living. House guests who overstay are often curbed to this extent due to our extra friendly behaviour and luxuries we seem to provide them in a flow at the start. It is important for the host as well as the guest to know the limits of a stay and maintain the dignity of their relationship.
10. GO FOR OUTINGS WITHOUT THEM
Once the bow is off, we cannot really help but wait for them to leave or initiate the same. But while the stay is on and they don’t seem to understand the problems you are facing, make sure they know they are no more invited into the circle. Go for outings, dinners and parties without them, this shall result in sending two messages very clearly. One of you not allowing them to be a part of their circle as you want your independence back and some relief from the extra person in the house secondly it would mean you are so used to their presence that you’ve forgotten to acknowledge them. This might make the thoughts prop up in their mind of leaving the place at the earliest.
9. TALK IT OUT
The best way to make your thoughts reach a person is by talking it out. It isn’t necessary to really care about someone’s feeling when you are yourself hampered day in and out of the interference. When the water goes above your head and the guest might seem to take it way too easy maybe that’s the best time to let the silence break and you let them know that its time to leave. It doesn’t have to be rude or indecent on your part yet indirectly pinpointing for them to get a clue. People won’t always get your subtle hints. Sometimes you need to tell an overstayed directly that the conversation and hang out time is over.
8. MAKE THEM NOTICE
As being good well-mannered people, we often seem to hide behind the rules of age, customs and teachings. But when it comes to hindrance of our peace of mind that’s when we realize that customs might be doing less good than bad. Rather than keeping up a fake face, you can let them notice the plight they are causing by overstaying their stay. This can be done in many ways either by getting annoyed or by avoiding them either would clinch their eyes, hopefully.
7. USE AN INTERMEDIARY
Often kids come handy during a fight of the matures in the house. This is because their innocence is never taken as disrespect and messages are never felt as blunt as they might seem by the words of an aged. You could always use an inter mediator to let them know how you’ve started wanting them to leave and that you as a person is not able to bear the expenses, time and hospitality for it.
6. GIVE EXAMPLES
Often past experiences or fake examples come in handy to let the guest get a hint of what you are actually trying to say. Portraying a situation where a similar incident took place and letting them know how that made a chaos could help calm the situation and make them understand that its time to pack the bags and leave. That they cannot take your leverage for granted anymore by giving up their own self esteem. It’s all about being polite, apologizing, and conveying your feelings so your friends and family (or strangers) understand that you’re done hanging out. Getting rid of them doesn’t mean you don’t like spending time with them, it just means you’ve reached your limit.
5. STOP THE EXTRAVAGANT HOSPITALITY
Do not be ready with a piece of glass and the shoe polish every time you hear your name being called by the guest and let no other also follow the line. This might be a good way for him to understand that the place he has come to is not a hotel and there is no room service. When he would be made to do his work himself, like in his house he might just know that its always better at your own home. When you do not understand the difference between your luxuries and your rights, that’s when the problem starts of taking advantage of another person’s goodness.
4. BE RUDE
You do need to stop the good boy behaviour if you wish to get out of the long lasted stay by the guest. Do not subject it with morality and rather take a stand to let your thoughts be clearly conveyed. If you are faced by an extremely ignorant, aged or indecent relative, make sure you do not let them take advantage of your hospitality. This might seem to hinder your conscience but its best when it comes to some lazy souls who do not seem to acknowledge or respect their friendship.
3. DISTURB THEM
If you are naughty enough then, grab the speakers and put them outside their gate, do what he dislikes and make sure its done in abundance. After all its your house and he/she cannot dictate their own ways of stay, this shall definitely make them leave. Irritating the person rather getting irritated yourself is the best way to take revenge of the overstay as well as let them know they are no more invited.
2. FIND THEM A NEW PLACE
If you cannot do any of the above, then be the good boy and find your guest a new place to stay. It might move in your favor and he/she might discard the gesture and leave on their own, if not it might cost you a few pennies but definitely work the peace of mind you shall achieve by not having their presence around. This shall make them understand your intentions and can be an easy way of reminding them of the time limit decided, stopping payment of the new place and letting them pay on their own is one easy way of making them move their own place at the earliest as for sure they wont pay when it comes to their own pocket.
1.INVITE OTHER FRIENDS
Invite those who are your close and forever friends, let them know the state of your house and plan out the meeting. Ask them to speak out what you feel, helping you in placing what you couldn’t straight forwardly. Your friends can say in front of him/her, words like, ‘You are still here?’, ‘I came back from my aunts place in 3 days.’, ‘When are you going?’. While you cannot be equally straight forward, this might very well solve your problem of overstays by guests.
So, remember, when your host says: “Well, it’s been lovely having you to stay. We must do this again sometime”, they really mean “Goodbye, and don’t let the door hit you on your way out”.