Top 10 Instances that show Indians Lack Social Etiquettes
We belong to the land of high morals, of King who accepted 14 years of exile to make good on his Fathers promise. The land where we extend our respect by joining our hands and bowing our head. We have a holy river to which we pray with all our heart. With the tilak on fore head we step out of our house. And bam! the decency, love, respect and morality becomes optional. The term ‘dog-eats-dog’ world is really tough to survive, but in this race against time we Indians forget that the land outside our homes is our own country, the people outside the door are our countrymen and we have a social obligation. My tone may seem like one of a preacher but do take a look at the list and rewind your day. We see these instances every day. As a disclaimer, this article doesn’t point to any one and should be taken in a healthy spirit. As the year comes to an end and it’s time to take up resolutions, how about we take a look at the world and make efforts to right the wrongs, read on!
10. Nature call
Yes nature calls at its whim; yes one must answer it but is it really important to answer it publicly? Some things have to be private and this is surely one of those issues. Public urination is one of the top instances where Indians blatantly show their disrespect to the society. The hygiene factor aside, such actions sends wrong message to the society. The problem is that such a habit takes seed in childhood where it is deemed okay to take a wizz on roadside bushes if one really has to go. Later this is practiced as if it were totally normal thing. It is among commonest social norm which is most commonly flouted by Indians.
One thing I fail to understand is how does one stoop so low that to avoid having people spit around their shop/house/building/society, they put on pictures of various Gods. This is another most common and equally disgusting habit of Indian society. Seems like our country men are involved in a continuous spitting contest and hey they are all winning. Be it while driving or walking, the spit-a-thon is on, 24/7.
8. Public places
In Movie theaters we all might have experienced the one person who talks really loudly on his cellphone while the movie is on, a rowdy group hooting and chatting in decibels that drown the original sound. In public transport we have people playing music on loudspeakers with no concern for fellow travelers. Same instance goes in trains. Hotels witness this as well when the loudness of one lot spoils the charm for others. We need to tone down our volume just a little bit.
We Indians tend to take driving rules as ere guidelines and bend it around to suite our needs. The busy roads of Indian metros seems like a deathtrap to a villager for the drivers seem to play the real live version of Dashing car. (The game where you have to save yourself and dash other cars) In traffic we hear constant honks and colorful language. The two lanes turn into four-six lanes based on the size of the vehicle. The after you funda doesn’t hold true, it’s always me first be it a car trying to way in or a person trying to cross the road. The car stops in the middle of the road; the car is parked in front of gates with no care. The anguish seems uncalled for as the hurry makes it worse for everyone. Alas, no one wants to wait and they honk away, knowing well that the horn won’t help. Why!
6. Rally and festivals
India is a land of festivals. What happens to our land after festivals? It bears the signature of the festivities. The festivals ensure days of loud music on street, crackers bursting into the night and colors spewed on the street, left out for the nature to clean at its pace. In our own merriment we cause inconvenience to others, this is where we break the social rules. Even the national Days (26th Jan, 15th august) have their own shame with national flags left on the street after the days rally. The parades are supposed to be fun and leave everyone with a message, however when these parades occur frequently and without any rules, it causes nothing but inconvenience to public.
5. Garbage land
The chocolate wrapper or the chewing-gum, Indians keep their home clean. Home ends at the main door and hence outside world is garbage land. Inadvertently we dump the waste in public. Just chuck it out of the car window or throw it out of the house window, as long as the house is clean, Indians are least bothered.
4. Holding doors
The court of the Kings held chivalry as one of its honor, today the court is gone, Kings are gone and chivalry is definitely gone. Holding the door for someone is a symbol that we acknowledge the presence of others and respect it. When the door slams on ones face, the message is clear, I don’t give a damn, open your own door. And it goes both ways. Majority of people neither hold doors for others nor acknowledge people who do it for them. Riding high Horses, are we?
Parks are fun place to spend a Sunday with family. But there are few people who ruin it for everyone. The paper plates lay on the grass and bits of food and plastic bottles lay on the grass as proud indicators of a family’s fun time. The lake or river side is also spoilt by the public visiting it. And we wonder why there is no clean place to visit!
2. Rules and lines
Indians do not hesitate to bend minor rules like going just an inch ahead of the indicated line of Traffic signal. We have physical need to rebel against the official rules like do not walk on the grass, do not pluck flowers etc “oops I just did it, did anyone see me? No? Told Ya”. Unless there is a someone monitoring the line, many of us have witnessed people breaking it to get in first. An experience in a top notch University of India, I witnessed MBA students flocking the lift as if it had extra credits stuffed in. This when the elderly professors stood by, watching and waiting for their turn. Indians exhibit this passive aggressive side on Indian soil, put them on foreign soil and all this brazenness goes kaput!.
1. Respect for time
One of the worse instance of lack of social etiquette is the lack of respect for others time. Take any political rally, I have waited over four hours to hear a speech of 10 minutes and it was not worth it. Colleges: when recruitment begins, Colleges call students an hour or two before time given by the company. The company is an hour late so who accounts for the 3 hour time sink? Weddings, annual shows of schools, meetings take your pick. Everyone follows their own watch and it runs on their whimsy. Respect for one’s own time is a good habit; respect for time of others is a must. We lose out on this one, big time.
In spite of all this negativity, there are drivers who face the wrath of other drivers to let an aged lady pass, there are people who pick the flags after the day ends, there are people who go out of their way to hold doors for someone. These are the Indians that assure us that we have a better tomorrow.