Pain is Important in Life, and Why you must Experience it
“That’s the thing about pain. It demands to be felt” – John Green, Fault in Our Stars
Pain might be the strongest emotion the mind is capable of feeling, it can numb your sense to almost believe as though you’d never feel it again, but pain is felt nevertheless. It is important to feel the pain like it’s important to breathe, to eat, to sleep. It is as important as it gets to give. You ask why? Because when you don’t know what pain is, you hardly get to know what it is to dwell in bliss. In a study of contraries in post structuralism, a sign is itself just because it is not something else. Red is red because it is not black, happiness is happiness because it is no suffering, no pain.
Life is made up of people, of moments. Painful as it might get- people die, memories blur, things fade. But do you stop living? You just end up numbing yourself to this sensation of change, but at some time it has to be felt. This ain’t no choice. Numbing the pain is an option, but only temporarily, and when it demands to be felt, it would be worse than your capability to feel it.
You learn from pain, you rebound from suffering. Pain will be felt and then fade away, leaving scars and marks but those that remind you of the wonderful miracle your body is capable of, to heal. Every scar is but a reminder of a war you overcome, every pain is but a step to a stronger you. A stronger self belief of having the capacity to suffer the penance and get through it and rise to glory. Pain, you might know from your reading of the Bible or other religious texts, is the test almighty takes of your will to not give up.
To experience pain is like experiencing a rainfall, perhaps a little messy, frustrating and even downright unwanted at a time, but the sole reason why the rainbow exists. Pain will happen and then dissipate, but if you quit, you quit forever. Pain too is felt only by the capabilities of the sublime. To feel pain, you are first made capable of enduring it. Pain is not what is felt in a moment of hurt, that scar would fade but you’d often still wonder if the pain went away. Pain is the desperation of the soul to break through one layer of fetters for the wish of a free mind, the desperation for your identity, for your soul purpose of living, for people, for love. That is pain. The wounds hurt to heal. Pain is experienced to endure and increase your tolerance. To learn from it. It is for you to know life in it truest form.
They argue that a man cannot be a feminist. He cannot write of period pain and childbirth. He can never know the pain a woman endures. He might give his own account of events, but they will be biased till he gets to experience the feeling. How then will humans know what it is to feel the loss of life’s truest desires if not through pain. You need to experience the pain to know what it is to love, to trust, to feel. It is almost as though it is a chain of interlinked terms. Emotions are subjective. You wouldn’t know what you feel when you’re calm if you have not been stressed. Pain is your best teacher. Through pain you learn not just to heal, to rebound, to recover but also to cheer your best in the moments which are devoid of pain. Those built of delight, of love, of life.
“The Unending Paradox is that we do learn through Pain.”- Madeleine L”Engle